In honor of National Infertility Awareness Week, one of the greatest things we’ve learned about infertility etiquette is to let your loved one know you care.
The best thing you can do is to shut up! Quit giving advice about adoption, relaxing, going on a cruise, IVF, or assuming it is the girl when it just may be the guy, telling them worse things could happen, complaining about motherhood or treating them like they are ignorant.
My daughter once had a friend tell her, ‘well, you must not be doing it right.’ Really! Come on, people. Let’s have more respect than that!
Instead, the best thing you can do is to let your infertile friends know that you care. Send them cards. Let them cry on your shoulder. Tell them you are praying for them and do it. Offer the same support that you would offer a friend who just lost a loved one. Just knowing that they can count on you to be there lightens the load and lets them know they are not going through it alone.
My love language is gifts so I love to share sparklies with my friends also. Here are some great sparkly jewelry gift ideas for encouraging fertility.
Emeralds
I love a beautiful a green stone. Green is the color of fertility and growth. The gem of love and fertility, emeralds stand for loyalty, strength and motherhood. I bought my daughter emerald earrings just before she did IVF.
Butterflies and Turtles
Butterflies are all the rage this year anyway! The butterfly in some cultures is believed to be the symbol for fertility. Turtles are a symbol of fertility and can also be used to cheer your friend on for their patience and endurance.
Kokopelli
Kokopelli is a fertility deity, usually depicted as a humpbacked flute player (often with a huge phallus and feathers or antenna-like protrusions on his head), who has been venerated by some Native American cultures in the Southwestern United States. Like most fertility deities, Kokopelli presides over both childbirth and agriculture.
Garnet
Garnet cleanses and purifies. It is also a stone of love and may increase sex drive. It can reduce inflammation and strengthen blood, muscles and the reproductive organs.
Rose Quartz and moonstone
These are beautiful beads that are said to aid fertility. Rose Quartz and moonstone can reduce stress and aid hormone balance. Moonstone also encourages hope and fertility.
I find these treasures all the time, so please check my Ebay store often and if you can’t find something, ask me!
For more on Infertility,
Basic understanding of the disease of infertility
About NIAW
It is beautiful mom. I love it and I love my emerald earrings also. Thank you for being there for me through all this.
ReplyDeleteThat is a really great post and advice. It was nice to know people cared but as for advice, we covered all the possiblities thousands of times. And in the end its not something we needed to talk about further. But a nice sparkley Emerald would have brought out some good conversation; both of our's birthstones.
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